Thirty-something #BASIC

No explanation needed here. #Basic has hit every social media feed. Thought it was important to highlight an age specific #BasicBitch

  • Farmers Markets
  • Madewell
  • Color Runs
  • Baby Bump Selfies
  • Farm to table
  • Gender Reveal Parties
  • Panama Hats
  • Benefit Cosmetics
  • “Girls” trips to Naples
  • Quinoa
  • J.Crew
  • Pottery Barn/Crate and Barrel
  • Pho
  • Gluten Free
  • Half Marathons
  • Turkish Towels
  • Coldplay
  • Lululemon
  • Books on CD
  • Hybrids
  • Toms
  • Soul Cycle
  • Lifestyle Blogs
  • Starbucks Gold Cards

Thirty-Something #BASIC Celebs

  • Katherine Heigl
  • Jessica Simpson
  • Katie Holmes
  • Reese Witherspoon
  • Michelle Williams
  • Kate Middleton
  • Honorable Mention: Gwyneth Paltrow

wedding

This weekend one of my best friends from life got married in Brooklyn, NY.  She found someone who truly compliments her and I could not be happier for the two of them.  I was asked to speak at the rehearsal dinner and as this was the 10th wedding I’ve been in, I decided that my speech should be my 10-times-a-bridesmaid advice to the couple.

First and foremost wedding stuff.  You don’t have to tell me what hell it’s been planning.  I know, trust me.  To make life easier – a few things post-nuptial I think would be beneficial for you to consider.

1. Reception: Drink as much as you want…without blacking out of course.  Every sober bride I’ve ever encountered says it “goes by SO fast” so I assume if you get a little buzzed the time doesn’t fly by as quickly.

2.  Pictures: Don’t freak out if they suck. Everyone will only look at them once (even if they’re on Facebook) and you will only look at them a handful of other times when you’re in the mood to be nostalgic (which I’m guessing will be about once a year).

3. Gifts: Bed Bath is no longer giving cash back for gifts but Nordstrom is.  Since we’re on the topic, spoiler alert…I got you guys cash (I’ve finally learned that’s what every couple wants they’re just too polite to ask for it) but I’m going to ask you not to buy anything practical with it.  One suggestion would be to go and buy a bunch of scratch offs for the flight to New Zealand.  I mean, this is a weekend of firsts right?

4.  Honeymoon: No need don’t do anything too extravagant…ummm….have a great time for two weeks in New Zealand you guys.

5.  Thank you Notes: Julia don’t make Rob help you do this, in fact, don’t even do it yourself.  Just send a mass email and BCC everyone.  Unless you want to put a personal note in about what you bought with my cash, but that can be a text. I promise people wont care.

6.  Name Change: Heard this is a real pain in the ass so I would say…just don’t do it.  You can get around to it when you’re pregnant.

7.  I hear people ask newlyweds all the time “hows married life”  – some suggested answers better than “nothings changed”:

“I don’t know, you tell me?“

“Tax breaks, baby!”

My personal favorite, just start laughing then walk away

 

Then just a couple things that will help make it last:

– Get flu shots

– Never let soul cycle interfere with cuddle time – JK but seriously get a king sized bed already!

In all seriousness and to add just a little bit of sentiment.  Never lose sight of what brought you two together, The Wilton High School Field House.

16 Going on 30

My 16 year-old sister was in town this weekend looking at colleges.  She is so smart and sweet and fragile, it made me feel nostalgic for a younger version of myself.  One thing I’m not sure of is if I was as intuitive as she is or if this is something that comes with being 16 in 2013.  In one of our long talks, she told me that she wishes she was my age so that she could have money, confidence, love and of course go to concerts whenever she wanted. I almost laughed out loud.  I certainly do not want to be 16 again, but youth is something I will always cherish.  My only advice to her was that each phase of life brings new challenges.  While I do love being 30 and the perspective this age allows me, I have my own set of insecurities that could rival those of a 16 year-old.  It was a very raw moment and made me realize none of us are better off and all we can do is make the most of where we are today.

Bad rep

The other day I was driving, or blow drying my hair, or waiting for the barista to finish my coffee or running on the treadmill or SOMETHING just ITZ and I had an epiphany.  The reality reputation as we used to know it has completely evolved.  Hear me out.

Back in the day (high school/college/post college), if I did something questionable like get busted for drinking, fail a class, hook up with a sketchy dude, have a really bad lacrosse game, not get the job I wanted, break-up with yet another boyfriend…I would be concerned about my reputation.  rep

Everyone thinks I’m a train wreck, I’m never getting into college, I’m going to fail out of college, everyone thinks I suck at lacrosse, I’m never getting a good job, everyone thinks I’m a serial monogamist and I’m never getting married…(this might be true) and so on.

The reality of back then is that due to the lack of social media, not that many people knew or cared about what was going on in my life.  I had no idea how GREAT I had it.  The majority of my neurosis was all in my head (that might be redundant).

Flash forward to present day and the reality is that people may KNOW what is going on in my life, but the knowledge is fleeting and they still don’t care. We currently live in a crazy voyeuristic world where everyone loves looking at each other’s business but really only uses that knowledge to compare to their own existence and experience.

Should I be going on a tropical vacation? Woah, that engagement ring is WAY bigger than mine. Wow their house is huge and so well decorated! They have such a fabulous life, I need to go out more…

Truly, while people may be looking at your content, you are only a fleeting thought, because eventually it all circles back to them.

What is the lesson learned? Well the obvious, try not to care what people think, but the less obvious, people don’t really care about what you’re doing unless it is something that they might want to do. 

The less pessimistic version of this is live your life and understand every existence is special in its own way.