Ascoting the night away

I wore a beautiful silk scarf to work yesterday and it completed my sensibility. Because it was girls night I decided that happy hour needed to be at a bougey establishment. Enter Flemings Steakhouse.  With appetizers, wines by the glass and cocktails all at $6 – it’s unbeatable!  Armed with my scarf, dubbed my ascot, I led my girlfriends through a night of classy sipping.

Some fun facts about ascots:

When to wear an ascot: Ascots are primarily worn with formal wear. Ascots are originally from England, where they were worn in the late nineteenth century. – in other words FANCY

Who wears ascots: Fred from Scooby Doo, Jeremy Piven, Ken doll, Al Pacino’s character in The Godfather, Ralph from Three’s Company

When should you wear an ascot: Whenever it moves you.

Urban Dictionary’s definition of ascot: same as saying “ass got” example:”Damn girl you ascot phat!”

Tell your mind to SHUT UP.

Having too much time to think can be very dangerous especially when you’re prone to mind chatter.  While internal thought processes can be very insightful and revealing, for the most part it is destructive.  I found myself lying awake last night worrying about bills, where I want to be in the next couple years career wise, and when I want to start a family.  Is 1:30a.m. an appropriate time to be running through these things?  Thankfully it only lasted an hour the rest of the night was taken over by dreams of being a Ravens wide receiver…how timely.  Just because the timing of these thoughts are inconvenient, doesn’t meant they’re not there.

Upon some internet research I found some pretty interesting information about this nuisance.

Apparently most people realize that this chatter is simply “the process through which they think things through and discuss with themselves the pros and cons of their thoughts, feelings and actions”.  Unfortunately it is also the process through which we “inform our body as to what to express”.  Our body, both physically and emotionally responds to mind chatter more than anything else.  You can see how this would be a problem, especially if we have dysfunctional thought. As women, I’m GUESSING we react to these thought processes before confirming their validation.  Queue unnecessary fights.  Probably not the most productive route.

I never considered myself a prophet by any means but for some reason I have gut feelings about what will happen.  My selective memory kicks in when I am right, and I say to myself…I KNEW that was going to happen.  Deal is, I can’t read people’s minds and I don’t always know what is going to happen and often my mind chatter creates scenarios that are not real.

Moral of the story – tell your brain to shut the F*@$ up.  You can’t fix anything at 1:30a.m. and you don’t know what’s going to happen in the next 3-5 years or tomorrow for that matter.  Sit back, relax and let things happen.  Everything will work out the way it’s supposed to – or just keep telling yourself that and I promise your anxiety will decrease 10 fold.  Just watch out and make sure your crazy  mind doesn’t interfere.

Girls night or dinner date, the best ‘Za in town

When my friend requested Iggies in Mt. Vernon as her birthday spot I was at first skeptical.  Afraid of new and uncharted establishments north, south, east or west of Canton??? NEVER!  It’s a good thing it was birthday girl’s choice because I probably would have nixed the idea.  Truth is, the place is a gem!  It’s BYOB with no corking fee.  The seating is friendly and the lighting is inviting.  You order at the counter, bring your food to your table, and serve yourself dinnerware from a station set up in the middle of the restaurant.  It’s self serve, but that’s what makes it so great.  The woman that runs the place is as friendly as can be and could tell we were new comers so she gently explained the drill.

We ordered the Alice, (pesto, mozz, tomatoes, garlic) and the Pizza of the month (brussel sprouts, goat cheese, panchetta) and our order was up in about 5-7 minutes!  All of the ingredients are so fresh and the crush is thin but just slightly chewy to perfection.  The small pies are the perfect size for one person and two large pies was more than enough for 6 girls.  It’s a great place to go before a movie at the Charles theater or a perfect gathering for a large group of friends.  I can’t wait to go back, and tell all of my friends of course.

2011 and everything else that is new and good.

Before I start the new year off with a bang, I must reflect on this past holiday season.  A whirl wind of sorts, my first stop was San Diego, CA to spend pre-Christmas Christmas with my bf’s family.  My first time to Ocean Beach was simply awesome.  It’s places like San Diego that make you proud to live in a country that with the change of a state you feel like you’re in a different world.  It was so great to be with a family that made me feel like I was a part of theirs.  Tons of laughs, plenty of drinks and the discovery of the board game “Loaded Questions.”

Back to Baltimore for a short week, celebrating with my office and more of my bf’s local family.  It’s wonderful how the holidays make everyone more appreciative for everything in their lives.  Seldom did I see a sour face or hear an unkind word the entire time.

All aboard the amtrak for my Christmas in Connecticut.  Although it was a quick weekend, I felt so lucky to be able to share the holiday with my family.  My nephews never cease to amaze me with their silliness, my brothers never cease to crack me up, and my sisters taught me a new trick with eye liner – who knew!  The food was plentiful and the time was perfect.  My mom had almost all of her babies under one roof which is always her favorite thing in the world.

New Years in Rehoboth with friends as perfect as could be.  I felt like an adult, making appetizers and relaxing by the fire (thank goodness for duraflame).  It was a great way to start 2011 with a bang and I don’t feel like I’m going to die on my first Monday back to work!

What’s up next in the coming year?  Who really knows, but I’m pretty sure I’m ready for whatever life hands me.  With that sappy sentiment I say Happy New Year to everyone and let’s simply crush 2011!

Need a morning pick-me-up?

One thing that I’ve often struggled with living in the Canton/Fells Point area, is a good place to grab a quick breakfast sandwich.  I can only take so much Panera, and I won’t TOUCH a bagel at Towson Hot Bagel.  To be a typical New York snob, there’s no way I could ever eat a bagel south of the GWB.

A friend recommended this cute little joint, Water for Chocolate on the corner of Lombard in Upper Fells and of course I was skeptical because it was new and something I’ve never tried.  When you enter the cafe, you’re greeted by Sean Guy, owner, chef and barista extraordinaire.  I was with a group and we had all been out late the night before so our eyes quickly caught the “Breakfast Burrito”.  All ordering the same thing, we told Sean to do what he does best and that he did.  The bacon was thick and crunchy, the eggs were fresh and fluffy and the mix of spices were out of this world.  For $4.25 each of us were given 2 big burritos, enough for breakfast and lunch and it was just what the doctor ordered for a long day at work.  The coffee was perfect and again I can be a little bit of a snob in this department.  I cannot wait to go back there and chat it up with one of Fells Points friendliest restaurateurs and businessmen.